Singles Rule! The Surprising Media Phenomenon of 2012
Mid-February is supposed to be all about couples – treacly, dewey-eyed, Valentine’s Day lover couples. In a phenomenon that even surprised me, this February the media has been all about singles – and...
View ArticleSingle in the Navy, Part 1: Guest Post by Roger Morris
[Bella’s intro: Recently, a retired Navy veteran, Roger Morris, wrote to say that while he believed there was some singlism in the Navy, he also thought there were advantages to being a Navy single. I...
View ArticleSingle in the Navy, Part 2: Guest Post by Roger Morris
[Bella’s intro: If you have not yet read Part 1 from guest blogger and Navy veteran Roger Morris, you can find it here. Now, on to Part 2 and the conclusions, with my thanks to Roger Morris!]...
View ArticleIs Marriage a Risk to Your Credit Rating? Guest Post by Rajiv Garg
[Bella’s intro: Rajiv told me this story by email and I asked him if I could share it here. Thanks, Rajiv, for agreeing. ] Guest Post by Rajiv Garg I was having lunch the other day at a restaurant in...
View ArticleYasmin Nair Asks Whether We Would Defend Limbaugh’s Targets if They Were Not...
Just after I posted Undeterred, Rush Limbaugh bashes another single woman, Yasmin Nair sent me a heads-up about her own post on the Rush stuff. It is long, so I’ll post the first few paragraphs here,...
View ArticleSingle Woman in a Family of Married Women: Guest Post by Mary Edwards
Mary Edwards says: The women in my family are independent, successful and strong. Every single one of us has a very sarcastic humor and easy going look on life. My sisters and aunts are all married but...
View ArticleConsciousness-Raising about Singlism: Taiwan Edition
This past Sunday, the first day of National Singles Week 2012, was such a fun day for me. A journalist from Taiwan who had read the Chinese translation of Singled Out asked if he could come to...
View ArticleWhere Are the Single People in the Handbook of Social Psychology?
In the 1990s, when I decided to go beyond just collecting clippings and observations about single life, and look into the state of the published research, I consulted the definitive sourcebook for...
View ArticleSingles in the Military and Foreign Service: Voices and Perspectives
When I wrote Singled Out, I was just beginning to learn about singles in the military. Since then, I have learned more about the topic, and now, most recently, about singles in the Foreign Service,...
View ArticleThe Myth of the Isolated and Self-Centered Single Person: Who Really Is More...
Among the many myths I busted in Singled Out were the ones that single people are isolated and self-centered. Research on those myths has continued to proliferate, and the results are very consistent....
View ArticleEverything You Think You Know About the Benefits of Marrying Is Wrong: The...
Earlier in my research life, I studied the psychology of lying and detecting lies. I knew nothing about the academic research on single life or marriage. I just knew the media narrative proclaiming...
View ArticleHow to Fend Against the Insults in Those ‘Why Are You Single’ Lists
There are a lot of “why are you single” lists popping up these days. I have mostly stopped clicking on the links. Maybe some of them are fine. Back when I used to look at them, though, far too often …...
View ArticleAdults with No Kids: Naming, Shaming, and Talking Back to the Shaming
My primary interest is in people who are single. Marital status (or coupled status) is a separate issue from parental status. You can be single with kids or married with no kids. I know that’s obvious...
View ArticleThe Real Reasons for Living Single
As if all of those singles-bashing “why are you still single” lists are not bad enough, there’s more. I just learned that there is a traveling road show addressing the question, “Why is everyone still...
View ArticleSinglism in the Navy: Guest Blogger Continues the Debate
[Bella's intro: In Singled Out, I wrote a section called "The Command Team Wears Wedding Bands," in which I described instances of singlism (stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against...
View ArticleSingle for the Holidays – with Attitude!
Matrimania – the over-the-top hyping of marriage, weddings, and couples – is pervasive every day of the year, but it really gets ramped up over the holidays. So does singlism – the stereotyping,...
View ArticleCheck Your Marital Privilege
[This article is co-authored – in alphabetical order – by Lisa Arnold, Rachel Buddeberg, Christina Campbell, and Bella DePaulo. We are cross-posting it on all of our blogs.] “White privilege” and “male...
View ArticleSingles Advocacy and the Issue of Privilege
Single people have yet to have their moment as a political force. That’s unfortunate, as there are so many ways that they are denied the benefits and protections accorded to people who are married....
View ArticleHow Singles Are Celebrated and Shamed
Single people are routinely stereotyped, stigmatized, and ignored, as I highlighted in the subtitle of my book, Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live...
View ArticleSingles in the Workplace
Are single people treated unfairly in the workplace? Here are some of my writings on this topic and other issues related to single people and their work and careers. Best story I’ve ever read on...
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